Oh shit! I cut my hair

In life, you are bound to encounter “oh shit” moments. Moments that, no matter how prepared you think you are, will always catch you off guard, eliciting an “oh shit” response or some variation of it (Ie. “Oh sheeiiiiiiit”, “Holy shit”, “Oh shit what am I doing,” “shit, shit, shit, shit”, etc.). Cutting my hair was one of these moments. I have cut my hair three times in the last month, each time going shorter and shorter, and I have yet to become adjusted. Each time I hear the low hum of the clippers and feel those first chunks of hair begin to fall, I get that sinking feeling in my stomach, and I begin calculating all the ways this could go wrong. Will they go too low? Will they try to shape up my edges? What if they sneeze or cough or blink at an inopportune time? Wait -…

Do minimalists have more opportunities?

In just over one week, nearly everything that I own will be in one carry-on sized backpack. Everything I will need for my day-to-day living for the next four months (and potentially beyond) will be in this bag. And if I’m being honest — this terrifies the bejesus out of me. This process of preparing for travel has taken my minimalism journey to new levels. At this point, it’s not exactly an active choice that I’m making – I just don’t have the space for anything else. But oddly, as terrifying as it is, it also feels equally as rewarding. I feel that my ability to be unattached is unlocking so many opportunities. While I may feel free as a bird now, this is a stark contrast to one year ago. At this point, my husband Robert and I had recently upgraded to a two-bedroom apartment, a place where we…

Why it’s important to have black representation in mental health

When I was younger, I thought mental health and therapy were primarily for two types of people: crazy folks who were either already checked in, or needed to be checked in to the local mental institution; or people who were dealing with extreme issues and thoughts like suicide and self-harm. It probably didn’t help that I grew up in a conservative culture where mental health was largely ignored. The church and religion was (and still is) seen as the all-encompassing solution, where Jesus is the cure to anything and everything. Self-image issues? Pray about it. Trauma? Pray about it. Depression? Pray about it. Overwhelmed? Pray about it. But, the problem is that no one talks about what to do when prayer isn’t enough. This, compounded with the stigma surrounding mental health, made seeking help something of a taboo. Most people (that I knew anyways) wouldn’t even entertain the idea of…

July faves

As another month comes to a close, I am again in awe of how quickly time goes by. July has been quite an active month for me — My last day on my job was June 29th, and I capped it off with a two week vacation at home in the Bahamas. Now that I’m back, the real world has kicked in and I actually have to face the fact that I don’t have a job anymore. On the upside, I am also extremely excited because the end of July means that there are only about four weeks to go before Rob and I take off on our trip. Whoot whoot! via GIPHY You may notice that a few of my favorites this month are island-themed. I thought it would be fitting because of my vacation. Food | Sun and Ice icecream Sun and Ice icecream – I spotted this company…

Escape to Exuma, Bahamas: 3 days in paradise

The Exumas are one of those places where you see a picture, and you immediately know you have to go there. I don’t remember exactly when this moment was for me — but I’ll place it somewhere during high school, more than 10 years ago. I’m thrilled that after so many failed attempts (Rob and I were actually supposed to honeymoon here), I finally made the trip with my family for a 3 day adventure. As our airplane approaches the Exumas, still several thousands of feet above the ground, the beauty of the islands are beginning to unfold. The Exumas unleash their charm, revealing a delicate and charming presence scattered along a chain of more than 360 islands and cays — most of it pure and unspoiled. The water surrounding these islands and cays is completely clear, save for the patches of a darker blue formed by the shadowing of the clouds.…

I quit my job today

Every weekday for the last two years, I have taken the journey up the 24 step staircase that leads to my office. What may seem like an insignificant conduit between the building’s front door on the ground floor, and my second floor office holds so much meaning to me. My life has come full circle, walking up and down these steps – it is where my journey at this company began, and now, where my journey has come to an end. I remember the nerves and anxiety I felt my very first time stepping foot on them for my job interview. Hopefulness and ambition climbing the staircase on my first day on the job. Gloom and melancholy on mornings when I would have much rather stayed in bed. Excitement every Friday at 5PM as I would be practically running to start my weekend. And today, a mixture of sadness, joy…

We travel hacked our way to free flights around the world. Here’s how we did it

It’s official — we booked our tickets. This is me trying to be calm and cool and collective, while meanwhile inside I’m really like… via GIPHY I feel like I’m living in some sort of dream land, and some loud noise from outside, or the ring of my phone will wake me up and push me back into reality. To say, I am excited, would be a massive understatement – but at this point, I don’t know what else to say. So folks, I am excited. After months of research and planning, we turned this concept that was so crazy and foreign to us, initially,  into an actionable plan, and made it real life. At the age of 27, we are taking what seems to be a leap of faith to many,  putting aside typical life goals, and taking time to ourselves. I’d say we both have somewhat of a…

My experience moving to a predominantly white country

One way to Minority-ville I am 21 years old. I have just landed in Canada, after making a journey of over 1,500 miles from my island home. It is January, and we are in the dead of winter. For the first time in my life, I look around and there is no one who looks like me. I instantly feel like I don’t belong. When I made the decision to move to Canada for university, I prepared myself for the cold, and for the snow. I also prepared myself for the homesickness that I would inevitably feel – of being so far away from everyone and everything I had ever known. I contemplated how it would feel to be thrown into independence, and adulthood. But what had never, or perhaps, only briefly, crossed my mind was the culture shock that I would feel being transported, in less than a 12…

Is a gap travel year realistic?

Even though so many things are possible, we are generally confined to the boxes of our realities, shaped by our experiences, values and beliefs. I grew up hearing the phrase: “If you can imagine it, you can achieve it.” But, can you really imagine something that you’ve never been exposed to? I think it should say something like, “If you’ve been exposed to it, you can imagine it.” The sad, but honest truth is that our imaginations are generally limited to our reality, and sometimes you have to hear or see something for it to enter into your realm of possibility. That’s how it was, for me, with the idea of taking time for travel. Everyone I have ever known has practically followed the same plan: graduate, find a job, work 30 or so years, retire, then enjoy life. I had been pretty much following this blueprint, up until recently, when…

March faves

My first monthly favorites segment. It’s crazy how fast time is flying — I can’t believe we’re already a quarter of the way into the year! It feels like it was just yesterday that Rob and I moved into our new apartment, and this was last year June, and it’s nearly a whole year later, and we’re preparing again to move. I’m overjoyed that Spring has finally sprung…although it sure doesn’t seem like it around here. We were blessed with a Nor’easter on the second day of Spring (Mother Nature seems to be very familiar with practical jokes). This month also marks my first edition of my monthly faves segment, where I’ll share things about travel, or life in general that have brought me joy, or made life easier, in the hopes that it will bring some sunshine or have some usefulness in your life as well. Video |…